Bouncing Back from Unsuccessful First Dates with Latinas

Have you been on multiple first dates with Latinas where you were left wondering, “What in the world just happened?”

All you can remember was the awkward silence that filled the air and the humiliating feeling of defeat and failure sinking into the pit of your stomach.

It’s obvious none of them went well.

You need to remind yourself that having unsuccessful first dates from time to time is normal. No need to stress yourself.

Think of it as content for the many awkward first date stories you can tell in the future. You’ll surely laugh about it soon enough.

In the meantime, let’s work on how to bounce back from multiple failed dates.

There are more beautiful and likable Latinas out there, you just haven’t found one yet. So don’t limit yourself by shutting down potential love interests. Love always deserves a second chance.

That being said, we’re here to help you get through this time of uncertainty. Here’s how to recover from a bad first date with a Latina woman.

Chapter One: Getting Over It

Chemistry largely decides the success of a first date.

In other words, it’s not you. You just didn’t have that instant mutual connection, and that’s okay. Not everyone is going to like you. You’re not meant for everyone, nor is everyone meant for you.

No matter how hard you try, there will always be people who will dislike you for simply being you. It’s not their fault, nor is it yours. It’s just how it is, so get over it.

If the remnants of the failed date still bother you to the point that you’re starting to lose self-confidence, you might want to:

1. Talk to someone about it — Consider reaching out to close friends and family for emotional support. Pour your heart out to them and you might feel better afterward.

2. Do some simple reflection — Ask yourself, “What made it a bad dating experience?” You might learn something like what to do and what not to do on your next date.

3. See the humor in it — Taking things personally and seriously won’t do you any good. It’s best to look at it in a different light. Take a humorous point of view and laugh your frustrations away.

4. Take time off dating — If you feel like you need to put dating on hold, do it. You know yourself better than anyone else. Focus your energy on yourself and on things that matter.

If you do feel like you’ve gotten over it, start dating Latina women again.

Chapter Two: Getting Back on the Dating Saddle

Re-entering the dating scene after a hiatus can seem intimidating. It’s scary because you don’t want to experience the trauma you’ve previously gotten over.

While it may be true that rebuilding yourself requires tremendous effort and energy, you also need to realize that’s the essence of living. Life is an obstacle. You need to deal with whatever challenges it throws your way.

You might not have succeeded in your first, second, third, or even fourth try at dating, but that doesn’t mean you should get discouraged. Otherwise, you’ll be stuck in the same rut - lonely and longing for a companion.

Do something about it. Get up. Be courageous. Project confidence. Continue your search for deeper romantic connections with Latin women.

While you’re at it, here are some useful pieces of advice:

1. Date for the right reasons — Date because you want to find genuine love with someone you truly connect with - emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Do it because you want to marry your soulmate someday and the only way to find her is to go out there and meet people through dating.

2. Think about what you want in a partner — You need to be realistic when setting expectations. Remember, beauty is skin deep. It’s what’s inside that should matter when looking for a partner.

3. Leave the past behind — There’s no use bringing up your past or dwelling on it. Move on and begin a new chapter in your life. Rid yourself from unnecessary emotional baggage. You’ll feel lighter afterward.

4. Arm yourself with positivity — Positive things will happen if you believe in its possibility. Think “I will definitely meet my dream woman someday.”

5. Finding the right person takes patience — It will take you a few failed attempts until you find the right one. In the meantime, be patient. She’ll show up soon.

Sometimes, love comes our way unexpectedly. Maybe you should just ride it out and let the current take you to where you need to be - hopefully, in your soulmate’s arms.

Chapter Three: Dating the Right Way

When you do find a Latina woman that sparks your interest, make sure to leave a good impression during your first date. Don’t make the same mistake twice. Be better.

Reflect on all the things that went wrong on your failed first dates and learn from them.

Here are some tips to take note of:

1. Show her your authentic self — Sounds cliché, but it needs to be emphasized. The goal is to meet a woman who can love you as you are, and that includes your imperfections. You don’t have to hide them.

2. Avoid comparisons — It prevents you from being present. Focus on what’s in front of you, everything else is just pollution.

3. Don’t talk about your past relationships — It doesn’t add any value to your present relationship. In fact, it might put unnecessary stress.

4. Show chivalry and respect — Though we’re living in a new era where gender equality is being fought for, it would still be nice of you to foot the bill. Most Latinas will offer to split it, but stay firm and don’t let her pay. If she insists on doing so in the next few dates, you may opt to split the bill then.

5. Take things slowly — No need to rush things. Moving hastily is a recipe for disaster. Instead, move forward at a pace you’re both comfortable with.

If it’s love, it’s love. You don’t have to force anything. Everything will just fall into place, and like a eureka moment, you’ll know when what you have is the real deal.

Love and Vulnerability

In order to find love, you need to be vulnerable.

Show all your facets and hope she’ll accept you for all that you are.

If she doesn’t, move on to the next chapter and hope again.

Don’t stop until you find the person who does accept you and all your flaws. And take your unsuccessful first dates with Latinas as lessons to get better at dating.

Look on the positive side, there’s a sea of beautiful Latinas out there. You’re bound to find someone who can appreciate your genuineness.